Moms -- how do you stop feeling guilty when you have a newborn and a two year old?

now that you have two kids, some things will have to be different. you may have to alter your old bedtime routine with your two year old, but while her old bedtime routine may have to change, but one thing you can do to spend time with her is to incorporate her into the baby's routine. let her "help" bathe the baby and put him/her to bed.... let her feel needed and involved and be an awesome big sister with "big girl" responsibilities.